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Are women just as addicted to "THE CHASE" as ... - 7/30/2010 5:40:47 PM
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Striving2BVirtuous
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Well of course this comes from my own personal experience with men. I'm a 30 year old woman and yes I confess: I AM ADDICTED TO THE CHASE. The challenge. lol
But seriously, I am so NOT proud of this. Honestly, these days it seems as though women are more addicted to the chase than men are. It seems that since women out number men tremendously, men no longer feel the need to chase one woman when he has 10 others who are interested in him. No motivation.
Is it not human nature to always want that one person who doesnt seem to want you?
In a situation between a man and a woman, how are these roles reversed? And most importantly:
How does a woman recognize from the very begining when she is CHASING verses RECIPROCATING interest?
Should a woman EVER pursue a man under any circumstances?
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RE: Are women just as addicted to "THE CHASE"... - 7/30/2010 10:32:51 PM
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jaimestarcross
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Is it not human nature to always want that one person who doesnt seem to want you?
*I don't think so...(When I was single) once I know the man isn't interested in me that "ends" things for me... sure I'm sad and let down but not getting the guy that I was interested in didn't make my world fall apart.
In a situation between a man and a woman, how are these roles reversed?
*I'm not clear on what you mean by this question.
And most importantly:
How does a woman recognize from the very begining when she is CHASING verses RECIPROCATING interest?
*If she chasing the man then she's doing all the "work" -- she initiates the phone calls, asking him out, going over to his place etc.
Should a woman EVER pursue a man under any circumstances?
*I think so, if the man she's interested is blind or has some kind of handicap or he's a single parent with small children etc...
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RE: Are women just as addicted to "THE CHASE"... - 7/31/2010 12:04:25 AM
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deermousie
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I'm sure you're not alone, Striving2BVirtuous.  Tons of movies and TV focus on the chase, and it certainly is dramatic.
This is what helps me keep my balance: we have stages in life and we go through them one by one as it is time. If we like one, we don't get to stay there and live it over and over.
-pregnancy
-infancy
-toddlerhood
-childhood/school
-teen years/school
-young adult/college or job AND (hopefully) courtship/dating
-adult/married (usually)/walking the floor with sick infants
-older adulthood/older kids
-retirement
-elderly increasing helplessness/death
We've seen people try to live like dependent teenagers (or younger) all their lives, and it looks odd and unfruitful. Some people relive the thrill of the chase by getting married over and over (and over). Or chasing but never marrying, over and over. It breaks up the rhythm of a successful and fruitful life. They (and we) like the rush and the thrill to find ourselves accepted and cherished by someone else.
Maybe we can scratch that itch by accepting and cherishing others as friends - maybe a few will even return it. I think that's the kind of love God wants us to have for each other, but I may have this wrong. What do you think?
And as a single, I never sat by my phone waiting for it to ring; if a guy wanted me, he'd have to hunt me down. I would never chase a guy, as any guy who would like that might not be the kind of husband I would want.
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RE: Are women just as addicted to "THE CHASE"... - 7/31/2010 8:47:36 AM
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solarflare
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Is it not human nature to always want that one person who doesnt seem to want you?
Uh no. This might be true for some people but not everyone. Would you believe I have never had
this happen? Of course I'm married now........
I am older than you, but I really never had that experience and I have enough younger friends that
do not have that general experience either.
I have known a couple of women who were like that but they just generally 'drooled' over men anyway
and please don't take that personally....I am NOT saying YOU personally are doing this.
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In a situation between a man and a woman, how are these roles reversed? And most importantly:
How does a woman recognize from the very begining when she is CHASING verses RECIPROCATING interest?
Should a woman EVER pursue a man under any circumstances?
Well it seems you have recognized that you are the chaser....how fast do they run? LOL! Sorry....seriously,
have you considered it might be the TYPE of guy you seem to like? As in, full of himself and loves attention?
I used to steer way clear of that type of man.....with the hilarious result that a number chased after me.
I just don't see women pursuing men.....call me old fashionned, but there it is.
Women eat up that talk show garbage about how it's a woman's world now...blah blah blah....and women should
just basically act like a man. Frankly, if I were a man, I would gallop off as fast as I could if some the harpies
you see held up as role models came after me.
I'm sure you are not like that though.....however I do think these types of attitudes develop when a person
tunes into the world's propaganda rather than the truth found in God's Word.
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RE: Are women just as addicted to "THE CHASE"... - 7/31/2010 11:12:45 AM
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BelleWeather
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Is it not human nature to always want that one person who doesnt seem to want you? I'm not sure that one can call it "human nature," but it is often a symptom of the human condition, and a popular subject matter of movies, books, folklore, and song.
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In a situation between a man and a woman, how are these roles reversed? And most importantly:
How does a woman recognize from the very begining when she is CHASING verses RECIPROCATING interest? By paying attention to her innamorata.
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Should a woman EVER pursue a man under any circumstances? Sure. Why not?
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